Volume 2019 Number 2
We Have a Settled Minister!
Rev. T.J. Fitzgerald signed the settled minister contract at the Board Meeting on Feb. 19, 2019!!!!
As of March 1, T.J.'s new 3/4 time contract takes effect. This is the culmination of great efforts on the part of many over several years. We explored our needs, decided to stay in our church building and figured out how to use the building to improve our financial stability. Eventually, we made the call to T.J. after the congregational vote on Dec. 16.
Becoming a called minister takes great consideration on the minister's part as well as the congregation. We are grateful and blessed that T.J. chose to be with us. Mahalo nui loa to all.
We are looking forward to at least several more years with our beloved minister in the pulpit, his guidance to others, his pastoral care, his involvement in the larger community, and his guidance toward our next steps as a caring, religious community.
The Magazine of the First Unitarian Church of Honolulu
The MEB, aka, the Middle Eastern Bazaar, is scheduled for Saturday, March 23rd, at First Unitarian, from 4:00 to 8:00 pm, needs only three little things to be a rousing success:
This is our main fund raiser for the year.
Please help make it a success.
The Middle Eastern Bazaar
Saturday, March 23rd
Articles (from members or other UU leaders) submitted to the church magazine will be selected on the basis of their informative and/or inspirational nature or value to the life and ministry of this congregation. The editor has the authority to make the decision to not include a submission. Print versions of the magazine will be limited to selected 4 (or 8 back to back) pages.
Please help by donating Auctions Items, e.g., baked goods, art, trips, meals, house cleaning, secretarial services, computer tutoring etc. Let your imagination go wild. We will also need wine, beer and apple juice for the Bar. Contact: Catherine Graham, 808-741-4317, email@example.com.
Check out the Ticket Table for the Volunteer Opportunities Sheet. Fill it out and give it to Nancy Schildt or contact Nancy, 808-225-2744, firstname.lastname@example.org.
Years ago, in a lifetime far away, I was at a party with Gwyneth Paltrow. I remember passing by her—she’s tall—and sort of chuckling that she was drinking a Corona Light. In those days I kind of thought Corona was light enough. But a few days later I read a quote from Ms. Paltrow in the newspaper when she was asked whether she would ever consider running the New York City marathon. Whatever doubt I had in her poor choice of beverages evaporated in the face of her fine choice of words. She said, “Run a marathon? Doesn’t that take four hours? I don’t do anything I like for four hours.”
In the past few months I’ve been a witness to a friend who is training for an Iron Man triathlon. For those blissfully unaware of what this event entails, it begins with a gentle 2.4 mile swim in open water, then a moment of peeling your wetsuit off to get on a bike for a leisurely 112 miles, followed by dismounting your ride, putting on some running shoes, and bringing it home with a little marathon (26.2 miles). The total tonnage of hours on bikes, jogging on roads, and out in the open ocean is more time than I can fathom doing any one of those things.
Witnessing my friend prepare for this event, to do something most humans will, blessedly, never have to do, inspires something in me: wonder. Not the magnificent, “behold this glorious sunrise” wonder. Nope. The good, old-fashioned, “I wonder what got into that guy” kind of wonder. It’s a wonder not unlike the kind expressed by the southern grandmother of a friend of mine when someone explained to grandma that they were running a marathon. She asked them simply, “Honey, what are you runnin’ from?”
Humans with the drive, the patience, and the fortitude to withstand years of strenuous training to accomplish something hard deserve our respect, for certain. But many disciplines hold the pain or the discomfort that the discipline is meant to alleviate or to heal. Grandma’s question wasn’t only a witty remark. She’d seen enough to know what might drive a person who wishes to be made of iron. And so she wondered. And even Gwyneth Paltrow might have sounded cool in her comment to the paper, but not long after that she won an Oscar—no simple feat for average humans. Grandma might have some questions for Gwyneth, too.
Discipline is a form of coping. It’s order applied to disorder around us, running through us, and maybe sitting in some jostled corner of our soul. There are other forms of coping. There is coping at the bottom of Corona Lights for some. There is coping on the streets where people live, and not only jog by. There is coping wrapped tight in the bedcovers we can barely peel off to face the day ahead. But when we rise like the sun does every day and when we lift a little to the spirit that gets into us, we hold the best of both wonders in us even if just for a moment…and nowhere close to four hours.
And may it always be so.
Rev. T. J.
Rev. T.J.'s Message: Wonderful
Middle Eastern Bazaar 2
T.J.'s Message 3
Gallery on the Pali 6
Chalice Circles 7
Work Parties 7
Tickets are just $45 each and if you buy 3 or more, they are discounted to $40 each. Visit the Ticket Table
(Greeters’ Table) after Church or contact Sue Yamane- Carpenter, 808-258-8968, email@example.com.
We Just Need 3 Little Things!
A.D.O.R.E. Book Club
Recognizing and Interrupting
Aloha All! Thank you so much for coming to the book group and engaging in such rich and important conversation. This was my first time coming to the ADORE Book Group and I wasn't sure how to structure it. I am very open to feedback for future book discussions.
The April 7 book selection is The Immortal Life of Henrietta Lacks by Rebecca Skloot. In addition to talking about the book, I would like to engage in a wider conversation about health outcomes for Black women. - Lee
You are with a small group of acquaintances and the subject of racism comes up. Someone says, “I don’t see color.” The majority of the group agrees. You’ve learned that claiming to not see color ignores the unique cultures of people of color as well as the historical and ongoing racial oppressions. Ignoring color ignores racial inequalities that occur minute by minute and are embedded in our institutions. You want to say something, to point out the consequences in not seeing color, but you don’t know what to say or how to begin. So you say nothing, feeling deep regret for the lost opportunity, knowing that silence is voting for maintaining white privilege and supremacy.
Reports like this one brought about the launch of the Recognizing and Interrupting Racial Microaggressions Workshop. Created and facilitated by 8th Principle Task Force members Carla Allison, Eileen Cain and Lee Curran, this skill building opportunity brought participants together to pilot the training on February 16th.
Many thanks go to Rev. T.J., Allison Jacobs, and Jill Rabinov for their guidance in the workshop design, their participation, and their feedback following the pilot. Thanks also to the participants who took on the challenge of practicing to enhance their skills and in so doing, helped co-create this workshop. Are you ready to take on the challenge of building your skills to recognize and interrupt racial microaggressions? Contact Carla Allison @ firstname.lastname@example.org or 396-1488 to attend one of the upcoming workshops: Saturday, April 20th or June 8th, 2:00-5:30pm in the Gallery on the Pali. There is no fee, but each workshop is limited to nine participants.
“Microaggressions are the everyday verbal, nonverbal and environmental slights, snubs, or insults, whether intentional or unintentional, that communicate hostile, derogatory or negative messages to target persons based solely upon their marginalized group membership.” -Derald Wing Sue Ph.D. “Microaggression: More Than Just Race”
At the 2/24/19 A.D.O.R.E. ( A Dialogue On Race and Ethnicity) meeting we viewed Island Soldier, a 2017 American documentary film written, directed and produced by former Peace Corps volunteer Nathan Fitch. The film deals with problems faced by United States Military families from Kosrae who are citizens of Federated States of Micronesia. Because of a free association agreement called the Compact of Free Association, they can serve, fight and die for the US in Afghanistan and Iraq but they cannot vote
Chuukese translator Blake Fisher and Civil Beat reporter Anita Hofshneider attended as guest speakers and discussed the film as well as the plight of Micronesians in Hawaii. They informed us about related events that will be happening on Oahu that we can participate and become involved with which support the Micronesian community here in Hawaii.
There will be no ADORE meeting next month in March. Instead, we will be holding the Jubilee Anti-Racism Training which helps participants understand what is involved in nurturing a multicultural community and working against racism in all of its forms. This 2 ½ day workshop is a journey toward making a stand against racism. Church members, church leaders of any faith, as well as non-church members will participate. The training includes presentations, discussions, videos, exercises, and small group work.Seating is limited and it is almost sold out.
For further information about Jubilee please contact Carla Allison for questions or assistance. Email: JubileeAntiRacismTraining@unitariansofhi.org or call 808-396-1488.
For questions regarding A.D.O.R.E. meetings and events, please contact Jill Rabinov and Allison Jacobs email@example.com.
Upcoming Saturday Workshops
April 20th or Saturday, June 8th
If you are ready to experience being listened to and connecting with others in a way you may yet to have experienced in your life, join a Chalice Circle. Groups of 5-12 people meet twice a month for two hours to explore preselected topics using the deep listening/deep sharing format, each guided by a trained facilitator.
Beyond meetings, Chalice Circle participants gather for service and sometimes just for fun. Groups attend concerts together, have movie nights, help members move, respond to illnesses and hospitalizations, provide childcare, attend church work parties, provide Sunday hospitality and more.
Always open for new members, there’s a Chalice Circle waiting for you! For more information contact Carla Allison, firstname.lastname@example.org, 396-1488.
Current Locations, Dates & Times:
Hawaii Kai: 2nd & 4th Mondays @ 6:30 - 8:30 pm
Kaimuki: 2nd & 4th Tuesdays @ 10:00 am - 12:00 pm
Kailua: 2nd & 4th Saturdays @ 3:00 - 5:00 pm
Kaka’ako: 2nd & 4th Mondays @ 6:30 -- 8:30 pm
Pali: 1st & 3rd Mondays @ 6:30 -- 8:30 pm
Thanks to Dan, Sue, Pierre, Carolyn, Janice, Kay, Molly and Al, we had a successful Work Party on January 26th. Not every item on the "to-do" list got addressed, but most of them did and we have more tasks to carry over for the next get-together. Our next Work Party will be on Saturday, April 6th from 1 to 5 p.m., and we hope more volunteers accept our invitation to participate. Even an hour or two is helpful in our ongoing efforts to keep our church home clean and in good repair. Refreshments and fellowship are always a part of Work Parties, too.
If you have any questions or suggestions regarding Work Parties, please call Al Rowland at 988-4425.
Work Parties Continue
First Unitarian Church of Honolulu
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The deadline for both hard and electronic copy for the Magazine is noon on the third Sunday of the month.
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Editor and Composition: Jane Raissle
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