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6 Letter from the Publisher
10 Are You Spiritual?
18 Taboo Topic: Grief Has No Time Limit
26 Iridescent Teal
Laura Di Franco
34 Learning to Love Myself Belinda Todd
40 Black Lives Matter
44 Equal? Yes. Same? No. Patti Hornstra
50 Black Women Owned Business Directory
52 Our Cover Artist
Eliner (Ellie) Tryon-Elgin
60 Blessings from God—My Story
64 On Purpose Woman Global Community Member Directory
Bernadette A. Sahm
76 Real Women. Real Purpose. Talk Show Calendar
80 What is Your Path in Life? Lisa Diane McCall
84 Showing Up Messy… The Way Through
90 Events and Resources
92 On Purpose Woman Member Spotlight
96 You’re Invited to a Party with Ginny Robertson & Friends
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Are You Spiritual?
By Karen Tasto
I had the recent honor of facilitating a group of awakening women through an immersion of Circle Work. We spent 10 weeks harnessing the magical energy that filters through in Circle, while exploring intimate connection to our whole selves - our desires, our bodies, our emotions, our higher guidance/
spirit, and even with what lights us up. In the big picture we were merging spirit with body, the physical with the spiritual, heaven with earth...
While facilitating a circle one day a beautiful sister of our community (with her permission to share this here) was navigating like many of us through rocky times. She was emoting while sharing her story and as is pretty common, for women especially, she apologized for crying and for not being very "spiritual." I asked her what she meant by not being very "spiritual" and she replied, "You know, not holy or peaceful." This led to a beautiful sharing by everyone on what it really means to be spiritual.
It's not all hands folded in prayer, head bowed over beads. That's lovely - and it's so much more.
A misconception we tend to hold is that we're not spiritual unless we're feeling happy, grateful or at peace. I'd like to turn that upside down here for you.
So what does it mean to be spiritual? I thought I would share here what was voiced in Circle plus my own additions.
As you read each line, notice how your body is responding.
To feel connected to your Self and others,
To know your purpose and be following it,
To not have a clue about your purpose, and to keep asking the question,
To feel everything from your numbness to your aliveness,
To get down and dirty in the muck of your life, not deterred by the mess,
To look with wonder at both a sunset and a hill of ants,
To sit out in a rainstorm, tears and raindrops intermingling,
To dance naked under the moonlight,
To honor your shyness around nudity,
To feel the singing of your groins all the way to your heart,
To make sweet delicious love to your beloved or to yourself,
To stand up for justice even when it feels there's no hope for change,
To sit side by side with sisters, while tears wash down your cheeks and snot runs from your nose,
To cloak your vulnerable heart at certain times and hold it out in the palm of your hand at other times,
To move your body in its own chaotic rhythm like flames of fire even when others are watching,
To collapse in the arms of a trusted loved one when the world has beaten you down,
To create from a pull so deep within, you can only surrender to Her directions, Her colors, Her voice,
To yearn, to long for, to desire,
To smell a flower that has no scent,
To reach a hand to a moon so full you wish you could touch it,
To sink teeth into a ripe, sweet peach, letting the juices run down your throat,
To walk barefoot so much you realize too late you forgot shoes for driving,
To roll back over in bed, pulling covers over tight, overcome by a dawn of grief,
To meet a stranger's eye, a homeless man with a smile and a nod,
To flirt with the cute cashier at the grocery,
To belt out your loudest roar of rage to no one but yourself,
To claim, "I don't know", to ask for help, to plea with God/Goddess,
To carve messages in the sand, trusting someone behind you may need it as much as you.
To Be Spiritual Is...
Did any of the above cause your body to contract? Where did you feel expansion? Just observations to be curious about.
Now, what does it mean to YOU to be SPIRITUAL?
What would it feel like to claim out loud:
I AM SPIRITUAL.?
Karen Tasto helps women reclaim and connect to their whole Selves, supporting them in their quest to feel more vibrant, connected, and whole. She's a certified life coach & sacred circle facilitator. Grab your free E-Pack here to step onto your Journey to Self today. www.karentasto.com.
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By Andrea Hylen
My daughter was graduating from Santa Monica College, and as the graduation date got closer, I began to feel the weight of my husband’s absence. He had died 10 years earlier, and this was another milestone that he would miss. A week before the graduation, an event page popped up in my email. There was a “Death Over Dinner Party” scheduled in Venice. I had always been curious about this event, and the timing seemed perfect.
Opening the wooden gate, I walked towards the front door. The host invited me in and, with a sweep of her arm, pointed to a table set for ten with beautiful Mexican floral plates, silverware, and sunflowers. I added my couscous and tomato salad contribution to the table and found a seat next to the window. People entered the room quietly, making eye contact and a simple nod of the head with a smile. When everyone had arrived, the host invited us to pass the food and started with a few short question-prompts to begin the conversation.
When it was my turn to share my story, I began to speak about my husband’s death ten years earlier and how our daughter was graduating from college. Then I started to sob. Everyone waited for me to be ready to continue to speak. In between sobs and blowing my nose, I talked about the sadness I felt that my husband was once again missing an event in our daughter’s life and the grief I felt for my daughter’s loss, too. I shared how lonely I felt, and yet, in that moment, I didn’t feel alone. When I was complete, each person acknowledged me in a simple way, and we continued to go around the table, listening to each person’s story of grief and loss.
When I left the house a few hours later, I felt lighter. It was a safe haven to express the pain, to be seen and heard, to release it, and then move back into the world.
Life goes on but so does grief. When you have experienced a loss, it makes you vulnerable. There is a scar that will never go away. Something has happened that has rocked your world. You learn that Life is fragile.
In healing grief, there is a stage of acceptance, and even in the acceptance, death can feel surreal. My husband died sixteen years ago, and there are times when I can’t believe he is not here. It happens when there are life events like Covid-19 and feeling, “Wow, I can’t believe he is not here for this. I wonder what he would think.” In that moment, I miss him deeply. No more pillow talk. No more sharing ideas.
In grief, we move forward, but there is no returning to normal. I think that is the biggest misconception, that you will return to “normal” and that healing is linear.
Grief can surface at a birthday or anniversary but not always.
Grief can be situational, arising as if no time has passed because of a current event.
Grief can be activated by a scent or sight, sound, feeling, or another death or loss.
Grief can create
a spiral of feelings
decades later with
a tsunami of emotion
that feels debilitating.
My brother died from SIDS (Sudden Infant Death Syndrome) in 1961, when I was 4 years old. He was two months old. There were only two times I remember hearing my parents mention my brother, Kenneth. Once when I was a teenager blaring Alice Cooper’s song, “Dead Babies Can’t Take Care of Themselves,” and my dad yelling at me to turn off that music and how I was being insensitive to my mother. Insensitive? She never talked about the death of her baby; how was I to know?
And the other time was when my son, Cooper, had his second open heart surgery when he was one year old. My parents came to visit him in the hospital. Sitting across from each other, my dad told my mom that whenever he was in Massachusetts for business, he would stop at the cemetery and visit their son at the family plot. My mom said, “I never knew that.” My parents were in their sixties, and their son had died thirty years earlier. I felt like I was witnessing an intimate moment, sharing something that had been unspoken for so long.
With grief, instead of assuming that you know what someone wants or needs, keep the door open for conversation. If a friend or family member tells you they don’t want to talk about it, honor that in the moment. Give it space. Invite the conversation in a year or two or even ten. Let them know you think about their loss and want to understand what they are experiencing, even if it comes twenty years later. Are you willing to ask and to listen?
1. Grief is messy and dark, so practice being with the discomfort.
2. Reflect on your own mortality, including your fears.
3. Hold space for someone’s grief with compassion, not pity.
4. It’s okay to feel uncomfortable.
Examples of words from other cultures that hold the door open. All of the words invite an ongoing relationship with the deceased:
May you live to remember her.
May her memory be a blessing.
May her spirit remain with you in your life.
There are wonderful, supportive communities where people can express grief. Your family and friends do not have to be the only source of support. But, when grief is treated like a “conversation hot potato,” it limits connection and intimacy. It closes the door to real conversations about life… and death.
#1 in a series of 8 Taboo Topics
Grief Has No Time Limit
by Andrea Hylen
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By Laura Di Franco
A 13-inch dark, black feather
stops me in my tracks.
Like a sidewalk game,
don’t step on that crack
or you’ll break your mother’s back.
And I love my momma.
I reach down and pick it up.
The voice in my brain
maintains the phone conversation
and at the same time exclaims
“it’s a sign of the Divine!
You can’t fool me.
I know you’re listening this time.”
So I hang up the phone.
Do you remember the ocean scene from Life of Pi?
How can a pool of darkness
hold so much light?
Magic often dwells below the surface
of our sight.
alien things hold sacred answers to reap.
You were born and you wondered.
Not ‘yes and.’
But you were told and taught
then easily forgot
that wonder creates.
I was born again
when source played a trumpet solo
through my chest
and I thought I best listen, or else.
I started to wonder again.
I wondered about what I was meant to do,
how I was meant to serve
who I was meant to be.
And yes, some days
about how the bills would get paid.
But mostly I basked in the wonder of
what life would bring
if I chose JOY as my partner for once
and didn’t go back to letting everyone else
create my life.
Sahara Desert sands stretch for hundreds of miles.
Death to a lost soul.
A glass-blowers dream.
A quick gaze upward
from under the trees?
The reason we can breathe.
The deluge ruining your 4th of July plans?
Man, can’t you taste the relief
on the cracked, bleeding lips
of someone on the verge of dehydration?
Baking, uninhabited concrete
rolling the odometer over and over again.
It’s a path to meet new best friends
in the end.
Back on my path
something flittering catches my eye.
Flying, fluttering by
Iridescent Teal shines from tiny, toothpick-like sides.
Perching on a leaf as green as suburban Potomac grass
she says, “hi.”
Iridescent teal, you guys!
I tapped my iPhone twice while she posed
looked up, and cried a quick thank you to the sky.
I’m in awe of the abundance.
It is all mine.
It is all yours.
It’s in everything.
It flows through the heart and soul
of each breath
and each moment we choose
to make it so.
So today I suggest
you not forget
to go forth
and make it so.
Blast up the dial
on your vibration
and next you may notice
a check in the envelope
instead of a bill to dread.
is the same game
whether it’s sea or sand
trees or land
darkness or light
Your very breath. . .
. . . or the fight for those green paper things
everyone seems to think
are harder to get
than the rest of the magic life brings
on a daily basis.
It doesn’t have to be hard.
There are no conditions.
There are no limitations.
There are no rules
those you’ve made up yourself.
Isn’t it time you make some new rules?
Question your beliefs.
Question them again.
What would be a better plan?
It’s only YOU that stands in the way of
the abundant, badass, juicy life you imagine.
Laura Di Franco is CEO of Brave Healer Productions, where they publish world-changing wellness books. With thirty years of practice in holistic physical therapy, a third-degree black belt, and 20 books and counting, she offers powerful expertise and energy that’ll help you leave a legacy with your brave words. www.BraveHealer.com
by Belinda Todd
My granddaughter is exceptionally tall for a six-year-old, and I wonder if she will love her height or hate it. When I was an adolescent, like many girls, I was very body cons-
cious –negatively body-conscious. I was cute enough, but I had a bad case of thinking the grass was greener on the other side. I saw all the other girls as more special than I.
Unlike my granddaughter, I grew up in an era when black was not beautiful. My standard of beauty was based on Glamour and Mademoiselle, where Jean Shrimpton, Veruschka, and Twiggy were the new wave of cover girls known as “Supermodels.” This was the epitome of beauty, so I aspired to it. I was taller than many of my petite classmates, but I would never be “model tall” or “model thin.” There were no girls who looked like me gracing magazine covers. I only saw this European standard of beauty.
Praise the Lord! The seventies ushered in a new way of thinking: black was beautiful. Essence Magazine hit the stands in May of 1970, showing model Barbara Cheeseborough as a cover girl of Afrocentric beauty. Ebony Magazine and Jet Magazine had been around for years, but they highlighted black movie stars, athletes, and high-class models, not ordinary everyday-type women. Finally, I had an image of a black woman I might become. “Power to the people,” as I raised my fist to afros, bell-bottoms, psychedelic colors, and the rise of black women.
Imagine my surprise when I saw billboards advertising skin-
lightening products on a trip to Ghana a few years ago. After all, this is the twenty-first century! If truth be told, many of my friends and I had tried Nadinola Bleaching Cream. This was a product popular in the ’50s and ’60s, part of an era when lighter-skinned black women were often favored over their darker sisters. In certain circles from our racist and Jim Crow past, history showed that a woman whose skin pigmentation was darker than a brown bag was less significant in black society and possibly less likely to have economic and social mobility. Thus, the “brown paper bag test.”
Lest some of you think this is not true, Professor Henry Louis Gates, Jr., a well-known Harvard historian, wrote about this in his 1996 book, The Future of the Race. Of course, this was never a forthright act; however, colleges, social clubs, even churches practiced this form of color discrimination. Another African American professor, Audrey Elisa Kerr, author of The Paper Bag Principle: Class, Colorism and Rumor and the Case of Black Washington, D.C., also wrote about this.
Outdated attitudes on race and color aside, I was surprised to learn that skin bleaching creams were still on the market. In fact, I learned that skin-lightening creams, which are now called skin-brightening creams, are a booming industry. According to several consumer research groups, this industry in 2020 is valued at a whopping $8 million. Despite containing some potentially hazardous ingredients, these products are popular not just in the United States but also in Japan, Africa, the Middle East, and Latin America.
The world has changed. I pray my granddaughter grows up with a positive self-image, not just about her physical appearance but also about race and ethnicity. I know that her parents and I will foster in her a sense of cultural traditions and values. I pray she lives confidently in her journey through this diverse world.
In retrospect, I survived pretty well. I transitioned from being born a Negro child to growing up in a colored society. I lived to be a proud, positive, power-to-the-people black woman who matured into a productive, intelligent, and educated African American career woman. Though it’s been a long journey, I am most proud to be a woman of color, simply trying my best to be human and kind in a wonderfully diverse world.
I am most proud to be a woman of color, simply trying my best to be human and kind in a wonderfully diverse world.
is a communicator who uses ministry, acting, and yoga to help women confidently walk into the next phase of their life in abundant grace.
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Equal? Yes. Same? No.
by Patti Hornstra
I’ve spent a lot of time lately reflecting on the words ‘equal’ and ‘same.’ I won’t get into the details of why; let’s just say that a recent conversation left me pondering the difference between the two words. (Note that I said equal, not equality.)
I realize that equality means to be equal, but I believe it goes deeper than that when comparing ‘equal’ and ‘same’).
Just for clarity, let’s use these definitions:
a person or thing considered to be the same as another in status or quality.
of an identical type; exactly similar.
the state of being equal, especially in status, rights, and opportunities.
Here’s where the confusion sets in for me. If equal means same and same means identical– does equal mean identical? Obviously, that’s a rhetorical question, but it makes my point.
I believe in equality. It goes without saying (I hope) that we all want to be treated equally, to be seen as equal in the eyes of those around us. But do we all want to be the same? Sticky question, right, given the definitions above? I’ll answer for myself—I do not want to be the same as everyone else, nor do I want everyone else to be the same as me.
Did your parents ever tell you that you were unique, that you were one of a kind, that NO ONE else in the world was exactly like you? I hope they did because if they didn’t, you missed out on a great life lesson. I remember as a child hearing that, just like snowflakes, no two people are exactly the same (a little simplistic, but you get the idea). The world that I grew up in, which I raised my children in, is very different from the world I live in today. I so often see the words same and equal used interchangeably in today’s world. I find that curious.
We can be equal without being the same. Each of us has a story to tell, a story that reveals just how unique we are (unique being the opposite of same). Three years ago, I decided to tell my unique story, and ultimately, I wrote a book. When He Was Anna: A Mom’s Journey Into the Transgender World is my unique story; I’m the mom in the title. The book is about my 2-year journey of acceptance, understanding, and love.
I believe that we have a right to embrace our uniqueness, cultures, backgrounds, and choices without judgment.
But I am human, and I will admit that I am sometimes judgmental. I judge other people by their actions, how they treat others, and their kindness (or lack thereof). I expect the same in return. I will treat those around me with kindness and respect. That doesn’t mean I will walk on eggshells, that I will guard every conversation for fear of saying the wrong thing. If I ask the origin of your name because I find it beautiful and unique, I am not judging you. If your cultural background is different from mine and I show an interest in learning more, I am not judging you. I want to learn more about you, about what makes you unique.
Like everyone, my story continues to evolve. As a realist, I understand that not everyone is the same. As the mom of a transgender child (now a young adult), I’m an advocate for equality. As an optimist, I look forward to the day when we can celebrate one another’s uniqueness, where societal divisiveness is a thing of the past—where we don’t have to be the same to be equal.
Photo by Ben Weber on Unsplash
NO ONE else in the world was exactly like you.
is a native of Richmond, VA, and a VCU graduate. She is the author of When He Was Anna: A Mom’s Journey Into the Transgender World and Unholy Scandal (available in March 2022). Follow her at
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Eliner (Ellie) Tryon-Elgin
Arts d'Tryon Studio
I was born, raised, and educated in Baltimore, MD and lived five blocks from the Pimlico Racetrack, home of The Preakness. My father worked at the track, and I enjoyed watching the exercise riders and jockeys train for upcoming races. As a young girl, I loved visiting the stables with my sketchbook to draw the horses and the hounds. The love of drawing and painting animals and the people who work with animals has always been a part of my artistry.
I still love drawing and painting people, animals, and the world around me. I now live in Harford County, MD, and I’m surrounded by horse farms, rivers, and waterways that feed into the Chesapeake Bay.I’ve expanded my art to include Plein air landscape paintings of all the things I love.
To enjoy more of my work, I invite you to visit my website:
Are you a collector who loves Plein Air paintings? Check out my landscapes page for paintings done on site of some of the loveliest scenes in the Mid-Atlantic area.
Are you looking to have a portrait done of a family member or the family pet? Check out my portrait and figurative page. I enjoy drawing and painting people and capturing not only what they look like, but also capturing their personality. It’s the same with the family pet. Each pet has their own personality.
More about Ellie:
BFA from Maryland Institute College of Art
MAT from George Washington University
Member of: Harford County Artists Association, Arts By the Bay Gallery, and Mid-Atlantic Plein Air Painters Association.
I want to tell you about a sweet boy named PlaMeDi. When PlaMeDi was born in the Democratic Republic of the Congo (DRC), everyone in the family was excited to welcome his arrival. His mother was overjoyed. His father was proud to pass on his name, PlaMeDi Ngoyi. The family saw his birth as a blessing from God.
However, the family discovered that something about PlaMeDi was…different. Over time, they observed that PlaMeDi didn’t behave like the other children in the village. He would flap his arms and stare intently at different objects. He would cover his ears and rock back and forth. His family didn’t know what to do. When he was three years old, the family sent him to church for a twenty-one-day fast in hopes that he would begin to talk. Unfortunately, though, this fast did not help or change his condition.
His family was frustrated. This frustration turned into abuse. By the age of five, PlaMeDi was beaten constantly. Anything that went wrong within the family became his fault. They said he was cursed. They said he was evil. In hopes of chasing the evil spirit out of him, the family would throw buckets of cold water on him over and over again. They told everyone he was a sorcerer, a complete disappointment to the family. Because of this, the family believed this once beloved child had to go. Finally, the family, after being disgraced by their fellow villagers, threw PlaMeDi out of the community.
PlaMeDi’s story, sadly, is a common one for children with autism in the DRC.
My name is Thérèse Kolongo. I am originally from the Democratic Republic of the Congo, and I am the mother of a beloved autistic son. I moved to the United States 21 years ago, and he was born here 17 years ago. Currently, I live in Chesapeake, Virginia. The love of my son has created a burning desire in me to bring autism awareness to the DRC. I know all too well what happens to kids with autism in most parts of Africa and especially the DRC.
I felt so passionately about this issue that in January 2021, I created the Autism Congo nonprofit. Autism Congo seeks to shift the perspective on autism in the DRC by improving the quality of life and outcomes for children suffering with autism. We will achieve this goal through early intervention, specialized education, and providing family and community resources for families like PlaMeDi’s. We want to erase the current stigma associated with autism in Africa and provide equal opportunities for success for all children.
Creating this new life experience for children with autism requires us to tackle some huge projects. And our scope is wide. One project is to educate and support not only the mothers of children with autism in the DRC but also their families and communities. In many parts of Africa, children that have autism are being labeled as devils, and they are not diagnosed and not given any care or treatment. Some believe that autism is a punishment for a parent’s bad behavior and that the so-called “cure” or “solution” is through prayer. Oftentimes, these attitudes mean that help for autism is found in traditional or spiritual healers instead of professionals, resulting in a later diagnosis and delayed treatment. Parents of children with Autism Spectrum Disorder (ASD) in Africa often lack the knowledge, recourse, and resources to help their child.
We seek to provide parents, teachers, and medical professionals with specialized training and education to support early intervention measures and diagnoses. This training and knowledge will be delivered through workshops, reading material, support groups, and classes.
Another project Autism Congo supports is education. You have likely heard the African proverb, “It takes a village to raise a child.” A “village” supports its members, and the village we are creating is providing life-changing resources and opportunities for autistic children and their families. Our goal is to build a school for autistic children in the DRC by the end of 2022. This school will alter the lives of many children for generations to come, change communities and their current beliefs, and remove the stigma associated with autism. Our school will provide a safe and nurturing educational environment. In addition, we will provide education to share medical and diagnostic information in order to stress the importance of early intervention and therapy.
This school will provide children with autism the opportunity to thrive in similar ways as children with autism in the United States and other developed nations. ASD contributes to significant developmental setbacks for children, including verbal and non-verbal communication, sensory processing, and difficulty with social situations, like playing with others. This school would also relieve the financial burden on families for their child’s education.
What I seek is support from my “village” in the United States. While my vision began with my desire to give my son a better life, I realized I wanted to lift up and support all mothers with autistic children. By making others aware of the treatment experienced by autistic families in the DRC resulting from misunderstandings, I know I can create a community to create a better future.
Here is the website www.autismcongo.org. I encourage you to learn more and consider becoming a part of my village, too.
I’m glad to share that PlaMeDi was taken in by the church. It is my prayer that more autistic children in the DRC are seen as they truly are, a blessing from God.
Blessings from God
by Thérèse Kolongo
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Surrounded by life signs
Thoughts so intimately mine
In sharing space, sharing time
I, myself, my own life line
Your endless chatter
Heavens, what is the matter
Peace, I have on my own
Peace, a chance for growth and roam
Your endless needs, I pray, please recede
Sun, sand, tree, land
Child love and love of man
My solitude, my time to explore
To think thoughts, only I could adore
Flapping seagull, chopper plane, ferry boats, cars on main
I walk quietly, soft and peaceful thoughts
Chatter of little or nothing
My expansive mind, so ahead of time
Peaceful, calm, tranquil and content
My solitude always time well spent
I “sea” deeply across this inlet
Sailboats graceful and children so playful
Behind my darkest glass, I seek to look around to the past
Then to wondering what really lasts
My own contentment, all mine, the easiest, the best time
Oh in my solitude how I shine
Not alone, for I have me, how free and delightful
My contented smile, lasts a good long while
Just to think, my very own thoughts
Solitude, my time to make me happy
Time for just me, solitude, yes, solitude, really…
by Bernadette A. Sahm
resides in Lutherville, MD and serves as the Director of Development for Mission Helpers of the Sacred Heart.She is also a writer and officiates weddings.
What is Your Path in Life?
by Lisa Diane McCall
As a quote by Joseph Campbell goes, "If you can see your path laid out ahead of you step by step, then you know it is not your path. Your own path you make with every step you take. That's why it's your path." I had to grow into that quote. When I was younger, I was subject to believing that I needed to make the proverbial five-year plan. I was to write down my goals and strategies that I would aim to achieve in order to "arrive" at some larger outcome. It always felt uncomfortable to me. I resisted this gold standard to achieving success but tried my hand at it over and over. While this can be a productive method, as I grew to understand myself a bit better, I realized that it is not the only approach.
What Campbell proposes is to shift from a focus that is based in the future to one that is in the here and now. It asks you to operate from a balance between formal thinking and intuitive wisdom. But we live in a very mind-oriented society that lends itself to a mentality of over-thinking (paralysis of analysis) and setting up structures by which to direct our actions (climbing the ladder of success). How can you possibly plan for your future one step at a time?
This approach means getting comfortable with uncertainty, patience, and listening beyond your mind's chattering voices to your deeper, intuitive wisdom. What does that all mean?
Even if you make plans for a future event (for instance, I decided that I was going to leave my job because I had burned out), there is no way you can predict how those plans will go or what circumstances will surround them. In my case, I planned to resign on April 1, 2020. And if you have been living the past year's circumstances, you know that I had no idea that it would land at the beginning of a huge pandemic. It already felt scary to let go, but then there was the added uncertainty of a viral transmission spiraling out of control. Uncertainty became everyone's way of life, so I was in large company.
With uncertainty comes the hardest practice, being patient. Patience to trust that as you make choices based in the moment, you are navigating your path. That you are creating your best future one step at a time. This doesn't mean you just let things happen. The choices you make put things in motion, but you are playing with what is rather than the hopeful prediction of what will be. I had hoped to create gatherings of people for my life coaching business and volunteer with hospice patients, but of course, physical gatherings went virtual, and hospice facilities prohibited in-person visits. Practicing patience became a must. It is almost guaranteed that circumstances will go out of your control, so it's best to bring your focus closer to what can be done to aim for your future plans.
Mind And Deeper Wisdom
If you rely on listening to the chattering chorus of voices in your head, you probably have come to realize that the mind's strongest intuitions are often totally wrong. It will lead to miswanting what you thought you really wanted. Pairing your thoughts with sensing the intuitive wisdom in your body will enhance a balanced decision-
making process. And that deeper wisdom may cause you to feel uncomfortable. When I finally made the choice to leave my job, the timing was much sooner than I had expected. My mind wanted me to remain with the discomfort that was known, while my gut said the discomfort of uncertainty was the best step for my future self. That struggle may lead to second-
guessing because it asks you to take a path that is not laid out ahead of you step by step. I redirected those voices in my head to help me make informed choices in the moment, rather than projecting their fears to hold me back and protect me.
Now a year after leaving my job, I know I made a difficult decision, but absolutely the best one for my path in life. Could I see the exact steps? Could I have anticipated that an earth-shaking event would coincide with my choice? Are things playing out as my mind thought? No to all of these, but what it has given me is a deeper relationship with uncertainty, patience, and my deeper, intuitive wisdom. These are serving me better than ever as I continue to forge my path one step at a time. And I leave you with another Campbell quote: "We must be willing to let go of the life we planned so as to have the life that is waiting for us."
Lisa Diane McCall
If you are struggling, I am a Certified Life Coach who can help you connect with your inner wisdom and creativity for creating your path in life. Click here to find out more: Creative Choices Coaching
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Showing Up Messy
by Lulu Trevena
I am a recovering people pleaser.
And a recovering perfectionist.
Decades ago, before I knew about these traits, I was quite blissfully and naively content; until I wasn’t.
After all, part of our social skills training as girls and women was about politeness, being helpful, saying yes ad nauseam. The list goes on:
being told how we should look and act
being warned about airing dirty laundry in public
instructed to just smile, even when we were broken inside.
In other words, discount our feelings, and look good. Messiness will not be tolerated!
As a woman less than a year from 60, I am writing a new story.
Recently at an On Purpose Woman Global Community gathering on Zoom, each attendee had the opportunity to say why they chose to attend. My reply was, “I am showing up messy because that is my truest response today. In doing so, I am honoring my life, my experience, and myself.”
And I survived!
My “showing up messy” response resonated with others. There was a collective sigh!
When we show up fully present to our embodied truth, it allows us to hold ourselves with that extra bit of tenderness, even if only for a short amount of time.
When we show up less than “polished” or “all put together” or “perfect” and own it fully, it helps to create a break in the circuitry. It changes our default mode and challenges the inner critic who says, “You won’t be accepted just as you are!”
The more we fully embody all of ourselves, including our hot mess selves, and the more we challenge our inner dialogue, the FREER we become.
If we choose not to show up at all, nothing changes.
When we are witnessed sincerely by others, even in our mess, we carve out a space to relax, and our hearts and souls are nurtured. It opens a doorway for others. It invites them toward their truth, their tenderness, their wholeness, leading each of us to truly honor our humanness.
Many of us have worn multiple masks since childhood. We have molded and contained ourselves inwardly and outwardly to fit in. There was a point where we learned that adaptation, but before that, we were just unabashedly our true selves, in connection to our beingness.
Let’s start a little revolution, to remove self-imposed, societal, and generational labels that no longer serve. It is time to deeply meet and greet ourselves just as we are, even if we show up messy.
Yes, there will be a ripple effect.
As you show up messy, raw, vulnerable, and real, you build trust in yourself as a multidimensional, multifaceted, multi-emotional, expansive, divine-human being. Whole, not fragmented.
My youngest daughter has a saying, “I did (such and such), and I didn’t die!” Stepping out of our comfort zone always has risks. Survival is part of our DNA. Survival for many has come to mean always doing the right thing, looking right, speaking right, not ruffling feathers, because if we don’t adhere, we may die!
Our inner critic is our judge and jury, reminding us not to expose ourselves to the enemy and stay safe. Small. Silent. Tidy. This reflects the age-old limiting thought that children should be seen and not heard. Or women should just look pretty and leave the important stuff to the men.
After all, emotions and feelings are messy. Yep, messy.
Society leans towards modeling everyone in sameness. Yet, we also like to celebrate the underdog; we rally behind a story of challenge to triumph. It gives us hope. It acknowledges differences. It frees us from the fear of not fitting in and the fear that if I am different, I will be excommunicated or cast out from the tribe.
Belonging is a human core value.
I want to be in the tribe that celebrates belonging with wholehearted realness—freedom to be yourself. Showing up messy means I see all of you, and I recognize all of me.
is the founder of Live Life with Wonder. She’s an award-winning Author, Artist, Soulful Living Coach, and Quantum Healing Practitioner who’s passionate about shifting the societal narrative about women and age. Her transformational programs will help you live with the confidence to do anything at any stage of life. LiveLifeWithWonder.com
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Once You Know Your Purpose,
Ginny Robertson interviewed by Kathryn Yarborough
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by Ginny Robertson
I love planning parties and other events as much as I love hosting them! So, I was looking forward to planning and celebrating the 20th Anniversary of the On Purpose Woman Global Community in 2020. Well…you all know why that didn’t happen. So, I regrouped and decided that 2021 would be a great year to celebrate because not only would the Community be 21 years old, but I would be turning 70. I had dreams of renting a big space and inviting my world to help me celebrate these two major events during my birthday month of October!I was excited that my friends, colleagues and family members would come together in one space so I could express my gratitude for what they have all brought to my life.
Well…you all know why that isn’t happening.
So, I regrouped…again, as many of you have done for the past 1-1/2 years.
A Month of Celebration!
We’re still having a party and all of my women friends and colleagues are invited! It’s online on Zoom and also LIVE in the On Purpose Woman Global Community group on Facebook. But that’s not all! It’s not just a one-time party, but an entire month of opportunities! You’re invited to:
Win Some Prizes
A Party and a Drawing!
It starts on Friday, October 1st with an online party from 1-3pm (eastern) and ends on Friday, October 29th with an online drawing for some fabulous prizes! See ad on page 15 for details about the party.
And there’s more:
-Be On Purpose: A Day for Women Entrepreneurs. Kathryn Yarborough and I will present this online event on Saturday, October 16th. See ad on page 30.
-12 free online gatherings of the On Purpose Woman Global Community. Come to as many as you want. Check out the calendar HERE. Reconnect with some of your old friends and make some new ones.
-Opportunities to help us grow the On Purpose Woman Global Community.
-Did I mention that there are prizes!!??!!??
Every time you show up for an event, have a guest at an event, join the community or your guest joins the community – your name goes into the drawing for prizes donated by members of the On Purpose Woman Global Community.
I am looking forward to seeing you during the Month of October. And, of course, you can show up for any of our meetings in September too!! If you want to be sure you don’t miss anything, be sure to sign up for our email list HERE.
For the story about how the On Purpose Woman Global Community started with a party at my home go HERE.
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