The just-for-fun equinox event in September packed the house! Nearly 90 adults and children filled the sanctuary and, over food, made new connections and renewed long time friendships. The Chalice Circle & Covenant Group Facilitator Team partnered with the Membership Team to sponsor the event and combine the welcoming of new members with fellowship time for all. Doris Justis finished off the evening with a delightful sing-a-long. Mahalo to all who attended, making the evening enjoyable and memorable.
- Submitted by Carla Allison
Volume 2018 Number 10
Wake Now Our Vision
Fall and Fun Full House
How do you see our church in fifteen years? Thirty years? We can make a difference in the life of our church, even for years after we’re no longer here by making a legacy contribution for the future. We already have a few donors, but now is our opportunity to bring this bounty to our church. David Davis, Nan Kleiber, and Nancy Young have formed a Legacy Committee to help you arrange your giving.
The simplest way to make a bequest is to change the beneficiary designation of a life insurance policy or an IRA. Your lawyer can help you to amend your will or trust or create one for you if you do not have one. The committee is putting together a list of lawyers to recommend to you in case you need one and has applied for a grant to cover your legal costs.
Jim Myers and Mabel Babcock have given their example, however it’s not necessary to give the huge amounts they gave (unless you will have such available!). Even if giving this way has never seriously crossed your mind, now you can make the most of your giving using this opportunity. We, your committee, are ready to answer questions.
- Submittted by Nancy Young
The Magazine of the First Unitarian Church of Honolulu
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The Rose Petal Rebellion
The scene was perfect. Rippling water lapped against the shore of the hidden lake. Small beautiful structures, windows and doors wide-open, let guests mingle and move freely with icy beverages in hand. The perfect rows of white chairs gave form to the place where so many have walked so many times to make so many vows. I took my place at the end of the aisle and awaited the procession of those who were helping to make this day one of the happiest most memorable days of the couple’s life. Now it was time for my friends to be wed. Everything was perfect.
The music started. The groomsmen descended the stairs, then the bridesmaids. The bride’s parents took their place at the foot of the stairs to receive their daughter, but not before the all-important flower girls had their moment to shine. Down the stairs they came, baskets in hand filled with rose petals. They’d received their instructions about what to do and they planned to follow them perfectly. So it was a little surprising when one of the flower girls, before reaching the very first row of chairs, simply put down the white wicker basket filled with petals, crossed her arms, and stomped away.
Now, I think we all understand the merits of a good work stoppage and protest now and again. But I think we can all agree that a flower girl approaching the aisle of a wedding refusing to lay down the flowers might be a bridge too far. We were at a loss to understand what might have happened, so we chalked it up to a childish temperament. Perhaps she didn’t get her way, wanting to be first. Maybe she felt like someone wasn’t paying attention to her, so she bailed.
And really, these are feelings many of us experience in any community where we take part. Maybe we don’t get our way. Maybe we feel that our needs are not being met. But we might also assume a lot by someone’s actions. We might see someone elect not to take part in something and then assume that choosing not to take part has something to do with not getting their way or feeling left out. We might see the two things as related. But this logic, this assumption, is often false.
After talking with the flower girl, through tears over the upset she sensed from so many around her, she explained that she was only following directions. “You all told me to get to the bottom of the stairs, put down the flowers, then go stand with mom.” She was only following perfectly the directions she’d been given. The only point she was making was the point of following exactly what she was told would make this a special day. We laughed and congratulated her on a job well done. And as the long day wound to a close, the flower girl asleep in her auntie’s arms, unbothered now by the day’s drama, all the adults laughing at what they thought they knew, all was exactly as the couple had planned: perfect.
And may it ever be so.
If you are ready to experience being listened to and connecting with others in a way you may yet to have experienced in your life, join a Chalice Circle. Groups of 5-12 people meet twice a month for two hours to explore preselected topics using the deep listening/deep sharing format, each guided by a trained facilitator. For more information, contact Carla Allison, firstname.lastname@example.org, 396-1488.
Locations, Dates & Times:
Hawaii Kai: 2nd & 4th Mondays @ 6:30 - 8:30 pm
Makiki: 1st & 3rd Tuesdays @ 10:00 am - 12:00 pm
Kailua: 2nd & 4th Saturdays @ 3:00 - 5:00 pm
Kaka’ako: 2nd & 4th Mondays @ 6:30 -- 8:30 pm
Pali: 1st & 3rd Mondays @ 6:30 -- 8:30 pm
Chalice Circles 2
Rev. T.J.'s Message 3
A.D.O.R.E.Book Club 4
Endowment Applications 5
Festival of Resistance 6
First UU Endowment Committee Solicits Applications
The First UU Endowment Committee solicits applications for semi-annual disbursement of church funds invested in the Unitarian Universalist Common Endowment Fund. Up to $4,000 will be available and will be awarded for one or more proposals commensurate with the church mission.
Guidelines for submitting applications:
All submissions are due by 10 November 2018. Submissions will be considered en masse and applicants will be notified of results by 10 December, 2018.
Awards will only be made to Team or Group requests for special expenses.
Award decision(s) will be made by the Endowment Committee (EC).
The EC reserves the right to give preference to
Projects/events that affect a wide-range of congregational members.
Projects/events that have no logical funding source (for example, a Team’s annual operating budget).
Non-recurring projects, events, or expenditures.
Teams/Groups that have not been awarded these funds in the past two years.
Distributions from the funds may be used to help pay for purposes that further the Church mission and that are aligned with the principles of the Unitarian Universalist Association.
Examples of Requests that may be eligible for Distributions include but are not limited to:
Requests for funds for Building and Grounds to be used to help pay for projects related to the church buildings and real property, including grounds and landscaping, excluding regular maintenance.
Requests for funds for Religious Education to be used to help pay for major equipment or special programs that enhance the Religious Education program.
Request for funds for Social Outreach/Community Service to be used in furthering the Church mission in the larger community beyond the Church (such as funding of the ADORE Jubilee).
Application forms can be accessed and submitted online (access available through the weekly Newsletter).
Alternatively, a PDF version of the application form or an email link can be obtained from the Endowment Committee (EC) at email@example.com, and the completed form submitted by email to EC. Finally, a paper copy of the application can be obtained from the church office (Suzette Tom, manager) and completed form submitted thereto.
Our church has enthusiastically rejoined Faith Action. Many of us remember that in past years we visited legislators at the State Capitol to save housing for several groups in Honolulu. Another time we helped improve health care. Last year Faith Action helped push through a plan to receive $200,000,000 for more affordable housing, The Nakata Bill. We are working with the state on that this year.
How does Faith Action decide what our community needs? We decide by asking each other in all our churches. We come together and compare our responses. Finally we get together and choose two goals each year from the answers our members (That’s us.) gave.
Right now it’s time for us to find out what we think is important. It’s time to have one on one conversations. That’s part of our responsibility in joining Faith Action. These conversations turn out to be exciting. We need twelve people to learn how to lead these interviews. Then we each make appointments with several people in the church to do these one on one interviews. We find out what excites each other in our lives. We discuss what we’re looking for in the church and how we see ourselves contributing. We ask each other what we want in our community, what we see as its needs. That’s how we make Faith Action for Community Equity our own.
We hope to get this process done in our church in the next few weeks. Would you be willing to volunteer to be an interviewer?
Interested? Nancy Young will set up a training, and we’ll get to know each other better, our whole church better, and give Faith Action our ideas about Oahu. Please call (808) 389-2225 or e-mail firstname.lastname@example.org. We can do this together.
During the inaugural A.D.O.R.E. Book Club discussion, we had an intimate, yet lively and thoughtful discussion of Michael Eric Dyson's book, Tears We Cannot Stop: A Sermon To White America today. Thank you to all who participated for your attentive, deep listening and honest, vulnerable sharing.
Per our previous plan, we will discuss When They Call You a Terrorist: A Black Lives Matter Memoir by Patrisse Khan-Cullors on Sunday, December 2nd.
It was also agreed that we will read and discuss White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism by Robin Diangelo & Michael Eric Dyson for Sunday, February 3rd. Paula Cole-Jones, founder of A.D.O.R.E. and Jubilee trainer recommended that we read this book before the Jubilee Anti-Racism training that will be happening at our church in March. - Kathy Kaknes
Faith Action For Community Equity
A.D.O.R.E. Book Club
At the October 28, 2018 A.D.O.R.E. meeting, participants viewed and discussed Maribel Apuya’s documentary, “The Sakada Series.” We learned about the Filipino contract workers who worked on Hawaii’s sugar and pineapple plantations from 1906-1946, and gained a deeper understanding of Filipino-American culture in Hawaii. Two guests joined us in our discussion. One, Bernice Ramos Clark, is the daughter of Angel Ramos, who is prominently featured in the documentary and who has been honored as a "Living Treasure" by the Honolulu City Council. The other, Deanna Espinas, is Secretary of the Filipino-American Historical Society of Hawaii and President of the Board of Hawaii’s Plantation Village.
A Powerful Evening with 13th
In his August 28th sermon, Rev. T.J. recommended we all see the documentary, 13th. Via his Weekly Message, Rev. T.J. recommended we not watch it alone. A month later, nearly fifty church and community members gathered in our sanctuary and did just that. The film lived up to and beyond its description of being a “thought-provoking documentary” in which “scholars, activists and politicians analyze the criminalization of African Americans and the U.S. prison boom.”
In her October 2016 interview with The Atantic, filmaker Ava DuVernay said, “I believe in fortification and I believe that at this time, we should be fortifying ourselves through knowledge, through self-care, through community. All of these speak through art. It’s really about rallying around this moment and taking in a totality of what it is, and making it internal in whatever way that means to you. If you know all this stuff, great. Pass it on. If you don’t know it, know it. You need to know it. Because at this point, after you see 13th, silence in this case is consent. You know all of this. You’re a forward-thinking person, you care about it. You can’t just walk out into the night after you see the movie or put down your iPad after you see it on Netflix and do nothing about it. I’m not saying you have to join a march. I’m not saying you have to push for legislation. I’m saying what this film talks about is the very way that we deal with each other in the everyday. It’s about our relationship to each other as it deals with race. So there’s a lot there to be done.”
-submitted by Carla Allison
On September 19, 2018, 10:00am – 1:30pm, First Unitarian Church of Honolulu’s A.D.O.R.E. (A Dialogue On Race and Ethnicity) group and Social Justice Council participated in the Festival of Resistance, organized by Refuse Fascism and World Can’t Wait, at the University of Hawai’i’s Campus Center Courtyard. Along with twenty-four other community organizations, we exposed the Trump administration’s policies and efforts to roll back the progress that has been made in bettering and maintaining our nation’s precious democracy.
Reverend T.J. FitzGerald, Kerry Campbell, Nancy Young, Robinah Gibola, Ron Takamoto, Mike Mottl and Jill Rabinov represented our A.D.O.R.E. / SJC tables. Deborah and Lee Bond-Upson were also present, representing the Hawaii Justice Coalition to which our FUCH Social Justice Council belongs. Kerry Campbell, who took on the leadership of planning and organizing, did a wonderful job creating a brochure describing the various FUCH social justice activities as well as an intricate interactive game in which visitors to our two tables could answer True or False to various facts about what is presently happening in our nation’s government. She and Ron Takamoto brought eye catching signs and Ron also brought good “resistance music” for us to listen to.
Other organizations expressed their resistance in various creative ways and Rapper Punahele’s spellbinding beat and words drew many students and faculty to the event. There were several situations of confrontation with the alt-right white nationalist organization called Proud Boys that exists on the UH Campus, as well as campuses on the U.S. mainland, in the U.K. and in Australia. Seeing that emphasized the importance of holding such anti- fascism events, since racism and white supremacy are strong tenets of fascism, which seeks to divide us all.
I felt proud that our church was represented along with other community organizations such as Refuse Fascism, World Can’t Wait, ACLU, Democratic Socialists of Hawaii, The Legal Clinic, Sierra Club, Planned Parenthood, J20, Hawaii Justice Coalition, Community Alliance on Prisons, Veterans For Peace, Hawaii Sanctuary Network, 350.org, and many more. Fascism uses fear to suppress free expression, so it was crucial that all of us were there to not be afraid, to speak out.
- Submitted by Jill Rabinov
2018 Festival of Resistance
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